A Kink Related Question

A word of warning to any readers. The topic of this post is of an adult nature in general and about a fetish specifically. If something like that bothers you please feel free to discontinue reading this post. I do not wish to offend any of my readers. I will also not be bothered if you so choose. I just thought I’d give the warning.
This post was a bit difficult to push the publish button on, because of the subject matter. I even came close to just deleting this, or at the very least just storing it and not letting it out. However, I decided to publish it. Mainly because when I decided to start writing regularly again and to do this blog, I wanted to push myself to put myself out there. So, since I took the time to write this, I’m going to put it up.

I have a confession to make, Mr. Shock is to some degree into BDSM. Probably not much of a surprise if you have looked closely at the sidebar of my blog where it shows my recently liked posts.

But here is the thing, when it comes to the whole of BDSM, it’s only the bondage I really have a thing for. I’m not all that into the whole SM, Master/Slave, or Dom/Sub dynamic that is typical of the BDSM scene.

I feel like an anomaly within the community. Every site I go to, Fetlife, CollarMe, etc. etc. The focus there is the whole Master/Slave dynamic. Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like a freak when I’m posting about looking for a female bondage buddy, instead of looking for a slave to train. I feel like I’m either not being taken seriously or just flat out being looked at as a weirdo just because I just want to participate in the act of tying up rather than the rest. I feel that the majority of the community looks at the bondage portion of BDSM as a means to an end, instead of just the end itself.

I have to figure that I’m not the only one who has a particular focus within this culture. I have to figure that I’m not just the only person that feel the act of tying up a female is all they want when it comes to BDSM. So why does it seem so hard to find a person that feels that being tied up is all they want?

I hope some of you from the BDSM community will read this and weigh in with an opinion. I would like to know if I’m wrong in the feeling that I’m an anomaly. I would like to know if I’m wrong in feeling that the BDSM community looks upon us bondage lovers differently because they go for the whole thing and we don’t.

Anyway, this is something that’s been on my mind for quite some time and I really do hope for some input from others.


Originally published January 23, 2013